Everything worthwhile will have its dilettantes!
Discos are a great example. Most people go to the disco to shake their ass. A lot of people go to the disco to find dates. That’s all fine and dandy, as long as you find your date while dancing. Or after you’ve danced for a while and you’re catching your breath.
Whatever you do, the first reason for your being in a disco should be dancing. That’s it. If you’re hoping to pick up someone, that’s fine too. Just don’t let that be the ONLY reason you’re there.
I say this because, if that is indeed the case, you probably don’t like dancing all that much. You’ll probably end up just standing there, creepishly checking out all the other people who are having fun. It’s just like going to the library to pick up a person. It only works well if you actually like reading. Otherwise you’re a fraud. People will see through that, eventually. And even if they don’t, what kind of relationship are you really starting? A one night stand? A one-weeker? Probably shallow, meaningless relationship?
Are you that desperate?
The best way to pick up people is by doing the things YOU like! If you don’t like to dance, don’t go to discos. If, however, you like football, go to the game. You’re bound to make a hell of a lot more new friends that way. If you like beer, you’ll probably feel right at home in a pub. And that’s where you’ll probably find your next date. And if you do, you’re probably great for each other, since you met each other doing something you both enjoy.
Don’t be the fucker in the disco that just sits by the dance floor, drooling over the tits and sweaty necks. Don’t be the fucker who goes to the opera just to be seen coming out of the opera house. Don’t be the fucker who grows long hair just because you think you’ll be a smash with the ladies. Don’t get your boobs done if you’re actually a bookworm.
Don’t try to be someone else to get a date. You’ll be left with nothing. Enjoy yourself, and those who matter will love you for it.
17 Exquisite Comments
This just made my monday-morning a bit brighter
And I actually don’t like the people that go to clubs, not for the music or to dance, but just to show off or to pick up someone for the night.
I like D’Arc as much as Fratelli and Riverdeck, which are completly different styles, but have really great music, even if the later are considerd to be fancy-shmancy clubs in which I wouldn’t normally fit in. What does that make me?
Anda, versatile
Maybe they just need a dance invitation
).
Richie, granted, but they usually come in
packsgroups so they can invite each other withing said groups. Plus, if you actually do ask one to dance, they will most probably think you’re trying to hit on them.It’s all downhill from there.
Ever tried anything like an oldschool dance battle in this case? Where everyone from your team just goofs around on purpose, towards them
) In the case of a pack, I mean 
and just challenge them 
so they don’t think you’re neglecting their friends or leaving anybody behind, thus having some fun, getting noticed and – why not – even taken home. Situations most oftenly can be turned into win – win situations, it all just depends on the perception of the ones that are being hit / impressed / danced upon 
Raka, I’m not sure I follow, but I do like goofing off. The thing is, if you’re goofing, you already win. You know why? Because you’re most probably having a good time just making funnies. — me-thinks
Number one: your blog made me see stripes all over the walls of my room
Number two: what if I go to your house, will that get me a date?
It’s about making “the stiff hunting pack” (if imperatively needed) to become unstiff by challenging through some funny method… It always worked in the old days for me and my boys if any of us had plans or desires in regard to continuing the party and fun at his own place, with his own pace and terms on a 1 on 1 basis
@Camelia: from my perspective, if I may, ofcourse, that could already count as a date, depending on the discussions and activities
Raka, I see now. I don’t think I would care that much.
Camelia, you’re more than welcome for the stripes. What do you think of the bubbles, though?
And I make no correlation between making it into my room and having a date. Well, unless I want to, that is.
Raka: It’s a trick question
Horia: Well, you said that if you like beer, go to a pub and you’ll make friends that also like beer, if you like football, go to a game and I said…
what if I stop by your place?
Have you changed the shade of the blog?
Camelia, appreciated, but I hate being meat; you know?
This needed to be said, *thank you*!
You know all relationships fail miserably, so why start off on the wrong foot and ruin the best part?
I see no point in actively looking for a SO when it`s so much easier to just keep your eyes open. It all boils down to the 80/20 rule which I so love: you can achieve 80% of the results with 20% of the efforts, and the remaining 20% is hardly ever worth investing 80%.
may i be damned to torment my soul eternally in the burning lava cauldrons of hell for not making any sense out of what you just said?
please, please pretty please?
PS: i don’t believe in heaven and hell.I just like to think in terms of soil fertiliser every now and then…
ily, true that. I’m a coder, so I’m friends with the 80/20 rule. And yes, relationships are generally awesome at first! Those few weeks or months. You could get high on that and that alone.
Another thing being silly like I’ve depicted does is to take out all the fun from the proverbial chase. If you’re not whole-heartedly enjoying yourself while hitting on someone, you’re doing it wrong!
Raka, what do you mean you didn’t get it? ily, he’ll be at UVT at a quarter past six. Go and explain! Run
i sadly don’t know the 80/20 rule or whatever that is. Just saw it here for the first time in my insignificant and ignorant life
I’d gladly have it explained to myself 
so if any of you wouldn’t mind, I’ll truly be @UVT at 18:15 officially for hugging purposes. Unofficially, I wanna see if I get that free hug 
officially for class purposes… damn! hugs really take my mind off things