Say you’re yearning for something you shouldn’t be after.
I mean, people frown upon it and facts lead you to believe it is no the right thing for you. Whats more, you even said you don’t want anything to do with it. And you make a big point of that, too.
In this case, seeking it would make you spineless and a hypocrite and a coward. Just like a person that’s quit smoking and takes a drag, or buys a new pack. You fell off the wagon. At least, that’s how people will see it.
It actually takes great courage to give in to temptation. Few people realize that, and fewer still applaud it. It’s a nice way of taking responsibility. It’s a great way to make mistakes to learn from. Or maybe you get lucky and prove everyone wrong.
Kudos to you if you do it!
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I think that if you are going to go for something that’s not… approved by the majority of the people around you, it’s better to just keep it to yourself. Try to take a neutral position, you know?
Crinutza, the point is not earning recognition, or doing it just to put on a show. Those would be the wrong reasons.
Whether you make you decision public or not is of little iimportance, actually. But staying neutral just to avoid a possible backlash.. that’s called pussying out.
You can be neutral, or you can be what you really want to be.
I think one must do what he/she feels and consider right. It’s not about what people say or people think. It’s about having the balls to cross the line.
I have to agree with Cristina. If you are going to care about what every little person says, you will never get what you want, because you don’t want to hurt the others. Well, nevermind that. Someone will get hurt in the end anyway.
Sometimes you have to do what you want, not what others want.
Cristina and Todo, exactly! There will always be naysayers, and whatever decision you make in your life, there will be someone that will disagree with you.
Just try to have fun with the least casualties along the way.
@Horia: you think?
It might be a more prudent approach, but I feel that my personal choices and desires belong to me alone, therefore there is no real need to share with others, unless they play a part or are affected in some way.
What they don’t know, won’t hurt them… or something like that
Thank you.
Though all I`ve learned from my mistakes is how to make better ones. Somehow, I doubt I`m doing it right.
what if i’m a pedophile?
Crinutza, it’s not about sharing your desires, it’s about acting on them
ily, you path in life is marked by a lot of mistakes. So long as it’s not the same mistake over and over, you’re doing just fine!
ela x, real pedophiles don’t read this blog. Real pedophiles also have working emails. But in all seriousness, acting on the pedo-lust implies another person. Person who is not of the age of consent. Somebody who will, most likely, turn you down. That is different. Naysayers are people that have a strong opinion, but are seldom directly connected to the matter.
@Horia, that’s my point, too! Go towards your goal without involving that many people
Ok, maybe naysayers are smth else, but, srsly, you can’t be sure pedophiles don’t read your blog
they just don’t share real emails cause they don’t wanna get caught…And believe me, 12yearolds don’t all turn you down. Have you read Lolita? Lovely book! Have a lovely day!
@Crinutza I think it’s not about how many people you involve. It’s about if you care or not about them.
Crinutza, but people are more or less aware since they’re saying “nay”
ela x, seeing how I apparently date older girls, yeah. Some pedo`s read my blog. But pathological pedo`s.. that’s a different story. The only way to know is to post some nasty pics and watch the traffic. And yeah, Lolita is a wonderful story, though I ejoyed the play a lot better…. So, are you a pedophile, dear?
Cristina, that typo happens to me all the time. And yeah, if you do involve others, they better be worth it. Not to mention willing, unlike miss pro-fancy-teen-pants over there.
Dear, i’m a Mr not a Miss. I just wanted to thank you for your post that made me care less when other ppl tell me it’s wrong that I’m over 30 and I like 13 year old girls. Oh, the girls are willing, as long as I pay them, btw. And the use of “pathological” is highly debatable. Bye now!
e la x, sorry about calling you a girl. And I guess I was wrong about working emails and reading my blog, eh?
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Well, being a naysayer has its advantages and disadvantages. Each and every one of us was, is or will be a naysayer regarding something at a specific moment, but i guess it depends on what side of the “nay” you’re finding yourself.
Getting involved in anything requires obviously a decision and managing the consequences of that make the naysayers say nay. So, correct me if I’m wrong, but not caring about the general public’s oppinion makes you a naysayer in respect to the general view of things. And crowds seldomly can be beat or made to have changes of heart. So basically the one being nay-said in the first place is – in fate’s irony – a naysayer on his/her own towards the community.
Taking a dump on other people’s beliefs or principles (a.k.a. not caring) doesn’t make it right. Nor having the balls and misunderstanding when and how to use them…
So I ask you this: does it really pay off in the long run to be a naysayer in respect to the people that want and wish you well? Because we all know that the people who don’t care and want your well-being don’t actually give a damn about the facts to get involved…
Raka, your comment is longer than my post. And no, I did not count the disclaimer.
Most of the time, naysayers base their comments with five-monkeys-in-a-cage-ish arguments. More often than not they have no experience with your issue. Now, there are some that will say that they’ve been in the same spot as you. Let’s not make a fuss about how that’s mostly impossible, since everyone’s unique.
But even if the advice was pertinent, and their experience relevant to your current stand, it still does not matter. There are some things we take for granted, some rules we adopt without doubting their validity. Like drugs being bad for you or that beating women is not nice.
But the line stops there, at common sense. Everything else, you need to learn on your own. You need to spend all night finishing your project, you need to have your heart-broken before you can really let go, you need to fall to learn to pick yourself up.
Even if the naysayers are actually out for your own good ( that’s not the meaning of the word, mind you ) it does not matter.
Right, so we’ve covered people who care about you. Now, let’s move to being stupid. Being a reverse naysayer just for the sake of it. I think ridiculously rebellious sums it up. You’re no longer fighting for something you want to believe in or already do. You’re fighting to live out other people’s fantasies — because that’s what it comes down to after a while.
Now, let’s get back to the proper sense of the naysayer.
This site runs on an apache server. The apache project was one that stood the test of corporate opposition. The people behind it said “fuck off” to the naysayers. It’s now the most popular webserver around.
And if you’re a naysayer to the community, you’re the spark that keeps wheels moving along. You’re the itch that requires thought on how to have it scratched. You’re a sine in a line.
It all boils down to either having a struck of genius or failing miserably. Either way, you gain some and you lose some. But at least you’re not standing still or inching at it by playing it safe.
Again, just and well argued your words are, young one! The force is strong with you
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I knew the sense of nay-saying, i was just pointing out a practical shade we may be dealing with, from time to time. And after all, it’s a subjective point of view for everybody
And regarding the comment length, i warned from the beginning it’s going to go for the record
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@Cristina-tm : I do care about the people around me, but that does not mean that I have to give up something that I truly desire. I think that the ones that care about me back will eventually try to understand. As for the others… it’s their problem, not mine.
Of course, there are cases where they should take naying to the next level and give you a slap, or something… like when your true desire is to inject yourself with heroin or something… But I am not talking about extreme cases here
This comment has nothing to do with what you wrote in your article: Me thinks me gonna enjoy commenting here and me dumb for not doing it sooner. Hope you forgive me for my negligence.
Cârtițoi’, welcome to the club. Better late, since it used to be ‘never.’
Cârtițoi’, welcome to the club. Better late, since it used to be ‘never.’